You are perhaps missing the point. It is directly in front of you. But your eyes are closed to it. You are trying to create a more balanced situation as things have been a bit too chaotic for your liking. And whilst you must certainly be firm, you most definitely shouldn’t let pride obscure your vision of what feels right. You don’t need to try hard now. You simply need to be and allow. The impulse will then naturally compel you to do what is needed without you needing to become quite so emotionally attached!